Posts Tagged ‘Single moms’

Happy Mother’s Day to Single Mom with Daughter: Coralie and Coral Torres

Sunday, May 13th, 2018

Note: When I separated from my husband of 3o years in 1990, my older two children were already living on their own with their partners, but I still had a third child at home (I was 41 when she was born.) So I became a single mom at age 51. Being a single mom was the most difficult job I ever took on, shouldering most of the child care, job search, moving, etc. When I met Coralie (a single mom) and her daughter Coral, I wanted to feature them for Mother’s Day, since they seem to be having the time of their lives as a mother/daughter family! Yay!  ellensue


Coralie (Cora for short) with daughter Coral

I met Cora and Coral at the fitness center where I swim indoors in the winter. Both women were in the same lane, with Cora teaching her daughter Coral swimming techniques. (Cora gave me a good tip, as well.) I learned that both were in training for events. Coral was working on a swimming meet and Cora was in training for a triathlon. Cora moved here from Puerto Rico and is a single mom with a passion for swimming.

I asked Cora to send me an update of the events she and her daughter are involved in. Here is what she sent:

This year I am training for two half-Ironman (70.3 miles): 1.2-mile swim, a 56-mile bike ride, and a 13.1-mile run. 
– World Championship  South Africa in September 1st of 2018 in  Nelson Mandela Bay, South Africa. This is the first time an IRONMAN World Championship event will be held on the African continent. 
– Atlantic City Ironman in September 23rd of 2018 (I will try to qualify for World Championship 2019 in Nice France)
I will be doing a few shorter distance triathlons  (Sprint and Olympic).
My daughter is doing (for the 1st time) a sprint distance women triathlon in Philly.  Women are taking over the City of Brotherly Love. The Inaugural Hand and Stone Women’s Philadelphia Triathlon is an all women’s sprint triathlon will feature a 400 meter swim in the Kelly Outdoor Pool, 9 mile bike on closed roads, and a scenic 5K (3.1 Mile run) through Fairmount Park. I am so excited and pumped up for her!!!
I was selected in the promo picture for the Women’s Philly Tri. (See the great photo below. es)

I love this photo of Cora. Perfect picture of her love for life! es

Their enthusiasm was contagious. The link between them was palpable, so I asked Coral to send me information on her upcoming triathlon and some photos (See above and below). The photos are so good that I decided the pictures were even more descriptive of the mother/daughter relationship than the events. So here are more photos that show you how close these two women are as a family.

I celebrate them and all moms for Mother’s Day, especially single moms!



P.S. My younger daughter and daughter-in-law moved back to the East Coast from Calif. only a few days ago. My older daughter is in Calif. and my son is in Nevada. This will be the first Mother’s Day in six years that I can spend with one of my children. I am ecstatic!

Happy Mother’s Day!

Waitress Taylar Cordova’s Posting and a Preview of My Mother’s Day Postings

Thursday, May 10th, 2018

Yesterday afternoon and last night (Tuesday, May 9th) I worked on my postings for this week, focusing on Mother’s Day. 

One posting will be a review of Jocelyn Crowley’s book Mothers Unite! In this book, Prof. Crowley writes about several women’s groups who support women with children who may or may not want to return to the work place.

While there is no specific story like Taylar Cordova’s viral message about receiving no tip on a bill for $187.43, the book does discuss work-related issues that would fit in with women’s struggles, especially (single moms’), to support themselves and their children. Please click on the Internet link or the byline link to read the whole story. Worthwhile reading, even if it didn’t just happen today!

(Source for photo and excerpt below:
This Waitress Got a $0 Tip on a $187 Bill — And Her Facebook Takedown Is Going Viral
 This Waitress Got a $0 Tip on a $187 Bill — And Her Facebook Takedown Is Going Viral

If you or someone you love has ever worked as a server, now’s the time to brace yourself.

A Facebook post by a waitress who got completely stiffed on a $187 check is going viral for highlighting the plight of service industry workers who rely on gratuity to pay their bills.

Taylar Cordova, whose Facebook profile lists her as a server at P.F. Chang’s China Bistro, took to social media to vent after a particularly needy table left her a fat zero on the tip line of their bill.


My second posting will be about a single mom I met at the fitness club last month, where I swim during the winter months. She and her adult daughter are both competing in sports events coming up here and abroad. Coralie Torres and her daughter were at the pool around 7:30 am, before work in order to work out, with Coralie (Cora for short) teaching her daughter swimming techniques. They have a tight relationship and I wanted to write about that relationship for Mother’s Day. It will post Sunday morning.

Coralie Torres (left) with daughter Coral.


Lastly, my classmate Mary Lou Meyers, sent me a poem about women of our generation, who came of age before the women’s movement. It resonated with me, because of the way we grew up, before we knew how to speak up! Having worked my way through college, mostly as a waitress, and also when my two older children were in grammar school, I used to come back from work hungry and tired, but too tired to eat and collapsed in bed, so I know how difficult waitressing is. And as Taylar noted, because of tipping, the salary for waitressing can be as low as $2- $3.oo an hour.

I am posting that poem today, with Mary Lou’s comment to me below the title, instead of waiting until after Mother’s Day, because I think it is relevant to the story I just read about Taylar Cordova, so here it is below. The last paragraph really hit home for me.  (I put it in bold for emphasis.) Thanx, Mary Lou. Note: Word Press would not keep the spaces in Mary Lou’s poem so I added dashes to show the breaks.

Kotex or Context by Mary Lou Meyers
Mary Lou’s comment to me: “I thought you might get something out of this, the stark naked truth of our adolescence.”
Kotex or Context?
The protective napkin between the ribbon of Truth,
dissolving the fundamentals we learned in school.
If we had any doubts we bled out each month,
when we were side-lined, half-court combatants,
missing days on applications.
Illuminating our stay on earth,
resigning ourselves to second place.
In between was the lady-like substance,
the free Charm School my emigrant mother enrolled me in,
precariously balancing a book on my head,
but how the formulas dissipated instead.
How easily we were sold on it, learned self-control,
gave precedence to men, who didn’t give passes
to women who wore glasses
or beat guys in tennis matches.
We featured a knight sweeping us off our feet, quite a feat
when you consider some muscular limbs accustomed to hiking.
How everything we did had to be blown out of proportion,
but how we chose not to undermine the boy,
who called us nicknames, the same one,
who dipped our braids in the ink well when we were young,
who thought it was his due for putting up with you.
A male student at Rutgers wiped windows with a feminine napkin.
What about the notorious “Panty Raid” at Douglass?
Passion Puddle was a one-way street, a repeat of what’’s a guy to do
on a blanket with stars twinkling, certainly not retreat.
Co-mingled with our flesh and bones we were so arranged to blame
ourselves without an even exchange.
But I swam my laps,
later filled in the gaps with the sealing wax of Poetry.
How many hours spent devoted to the craft of seduction,
instead of an armament to withstand the ravages of men;
make-up to prove something we were not quite up to;
Screen Magazine was the proving ground,
you could find it easily sitting on the privy.
Equality was a rousing stirring mandate,
but there were more than pitfalls
we became controversial if we took a stand,
knowing our place as wife and mother, understanding grace.
How pitiful we were, but long marriages were made of it,
anchored in place to make a go of it!

P.S. Ironically, I could not download a photo of differnt kinds of sanitary napkins because of “security reasons!” So I went to the Internet and downloaded a photo from natracare’s website. They carry organic, plastic free, perfume free and chlorine free products, which fit with my Earth Day Every Day “periodic” postings.” Of course, in our day, there were belts & pins, not sticky tabs. But that’s another story…..ellensue

Every Day is Mother’s Day in my book of living your truth
and supporting other women  seeking their truth!