I am writing this earlier in the month because I will be in Florida for 5 days, one of which is Valentine’s Day.
Since I met my husband Alan a couple of days before Feb. 14th and he called me on Valentine’s Day, this is a special day for me. But when I was single, I used this day to send love to friends and family, so whatever state of being you are in, celebrate with LOVE, LOVE, LOVE.
Speaking of LOVE, this little book by Lodro Rinzler is a terrific take on how to heal the wounds of love. The subtitle is Buddhist Advice for the Heartbroken and I wish I had this book when I was going through my divorce, but this was published in 2016 by Shambhala Publications and my divorce was well before that.
Each mini-chapter tackles an issue about love and loss, such as:
What is Heartbreak?
What is Love?
If You Feel You Might Never Heal
If You Feel Like A failure
If you Feel It’s Time to Let Go
Each of these mini-chapters point to the healing process in simple terms, using many of the author’s own heartbreak examples.
This would make a great gift for someone going through a break-up. At $12.95 you will learn a great deal about yourself as well as the pain you are going through and how to weather the storm of sadness of the death of a loved one or pain from a breakup. I read it slowly, because there’s a lot of info packed into 170 pages in a book only 4″ X 6″. PAck it into your tote or in a big pocket and read it as needed!
I also cut and pasted info from the Internet about this day, and it included love stories in the movies, all of which I have seen except Love & Basketball. I would have to pick Casablanca and Dirty Dancing and Sleepless in Seattle as my three favorites, with Pretty Woman and When Harry Met Sally as runners up.
Valentine’s Day, also called Saint Valentine’s Day or the Feast of Saint Valentine, is an annual holiday celebrated on February 14. It originated as a Western Christian liturgical feast day honoring one or more…wikipedia.org
Feast day of Saint Valentine; the celebration of love and affection
Sending greeting cards and gifts, dating, church services
Note:I met my husband Alan two days before Valentine’s Day in 2003, so this holiday has become special to me. I have written a short essay about an earlier tradition on Valentine’s Day in the essay below.
Heart Handkerchiefs: An Old-Fashioned Idea that Needs a Second Look
Every morning my mother would wrap the coins for my lunch money in one of her pretty cotton handkerchiefs, tying the opposite corners and making a soft knot that I could untie to pay for my lunch. I loved her lace-trimmed and crocheted-edged hankies, especially those embroidered with her initial B in calligraphy. I carry that memory with me every time I place a cotton handkerchief in my pocket or purse.
Unfortunately, women’s hankies are somewhat difficult to find in department stores or big box stores. The cotton hanky seems to be a dinosaur in America, although they were readily available when I went to Italy and found them in specialty stores that carried lovely linens. They are also online from eBay. (Picture above is one from eBay.)
When I pulled out my hanky at my older daughter’s, she made a funny face and commented how unsanitary a handkerchief is. I said, “I am using it only on my nose and placing it in the laundry when I get home.” She still wrinkled her nose, so I was vindicated when my sister-in-law pulled out her hanky on my last visit to see her. And when I told my younger daughter I wanted cotton hankies for my birthday, she found them online and sent them to me as a gift. No wrinkled nose there!
I am not sure why men’s handkerchiefs are still readily available and not women’s. Then I saw a short article on the last page of Martha Stewart’s Living Magazine that, in the 1930s and 1940s, sweethearts bought and mailed their sweeties heart-covered handkerchiefs for Valentine’s Day. What a nice idea!
♥ So, I say, bring back handkerchiefs for women, starting with Valentine’s Day!♥
This cat named Bunny belongs to my daughter and daughter-in-law. The red bow is especially for Valentine’s Day.
P.S. If you don’t have a sweetheart, share this day with someone your love, like your pet, a family member, a colleague, or someone you’d like to know better. It’s all about LOVE.