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Divorce Tactics

Friday, August 13th, 2010

Note: This was sent to me by a reader and I am passing it along as information that might be helpful to you. The flowers are from our visit to Butchart Gardens in Victoria, BC.

Financial Tips in Moving Forward After Divorce by Cory Aidenman* (Be sure to go to the bottom for Cory’s FREE Divorce Kit link.

With your new position in life, as a divorcee, you are going to find out that financial matters are now in your hands. Perhaps you’ll find yourself needing to wheel and deal as your ex once did with his or her income, and when he or she was in charge of paying the bills and not you, resolving financial issues and perhaps, making financial investment decisions to benefit the future. Taking control of your financial future  is a critical aspect of your new life path.

Being single does not necessarily mean that you have to be down on your luck with the finances. This should be another goal to put into place: to become financially secure in the future. Having a job doesn’t not mean that you are financially secure, but saving a little something for yourself from the income is security. Make a financial budget plan and stick with it, putting a little money aside for safe keeping and the future. I was always amazed at how independent, strong women of yesterday, back in the earlier part of the 20th Century, how they went about stuffing their extra money into cookie jars, or 20 dollar bills hidden in obscure places that they had saved up, and no one knew of this financial secret except she herself. She was making sure she wasn’t broke if and when an emergency came about, or if her husband suddenly left her. She was prepared.

This is the attitude you should have when it comes to you and your money. After all, if you have children, they are always needing and wanting something that only money can buy. But again, since you are the head of the family finances, you will have to realize that you will have to spend wisely if you don’t want to be single and broke. I remember my uncle telling me a long time ago, right after high school and when I had got my first real job, he said, “You worked hard all week for that money, now pay yourself.” He wanted me to pay myself out of my own paycheck, with the leftovers going into savings.

Surprisingly, over a period of time, those little paychecks way back then, created a little something, allowing me to purchase my first car with the money I was saving. That was good advice, and now I pass it along to you. Always save for a rainy day, because you never know what is going to happen in life. Just Tom Hanks said in the Forrest Gump, “Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you are going to get.” Always be prepared. No one can take care of your future but you. No one can attain your goals but you.

*About the Author

Cory Aidenman has been married three times and divorced twice.  After a disastrous first divorce, she discovered many divorce tactics that led to a ‘Successful Divorce’.  Click on the link for a free $97 Divorce Survival Kit: -  Survive Divorce Free Report. I just did!