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Cooking With My Sisters by Adriana and Mary Yolanda Trigiani, Part Two

Thursday, August 8th, 2019

On Monday, I posted Part One of this review. Here in Part Two are some additional tips, quotes and recipes to show you how the memories learned from preparing meals shaped the lives of the Trigiani family.  Here is the link to Part one:…rigiani-part-one/.


NOTE: There was no photo of  just the polenta in the book, so I lifted one from the Internet. This recipe is actually part of another recipe. I wanted to post just the polenta, since I don’t eat chicken, which is the first part of the recipe. (ellensue)

The Polenta
(You can generally follow the instructions on any polenta package and you’ll do just fine.)

6 cups water
1 teaspoon salt
2 tablespoons olive oil or butter
2 cups cornmeal or polenta meal

Bring the water to a boil, then add the salt and olive oil or butter. Pour the cornmeal into the water slowly, stirring constantly — you don;t want lumps. Keep stirring until the mixture thickens.  To serve,prepare individual servings in the kitchen. Spoon the polenta on a dish and add a couple of pieces of chicken with sauce.  Put extra sauce on the table in case a guest likes a little extra.

A Tip from Mom: Buy coarse-ground cornmeal and make the polenta the old-fashioned way, stirred slowly; it’s better. A lot of restaurants serve a watery,pale concoction they call polenta, and it just doesn’t hold up to many sauces. For example, this dish (recipe below es) requires a hearty consistency in order to support the flavor of the special sauce.


Sautéed Mushrooms

Serves 4 to 6

Again, this photo is also from the Internet


1/4 pound (1 stick) butter
1 yellow onion, chopped
1 pound whole white mushrooms *
1 garlic clove, minced
1/2 teaspoon fresh thyme
1/2 teaspoon fresh oregano
1/2 teaspoon fresh basil
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 cup white wine

In a large sauté pan, heat the butter. Add the onion and sauté until golden. Add the remaining ingredients and simmer slowly for 45 minutes, or until the mushrooms are tender.
Place in a serving bowl and serve with your favorite dish. The sauce makes an excellent accompaniment for any many meat dish.
(Note: I would use the mushrooms over a medley of vegetables. ellensue)

A Tip from Pia (another sister): Really make this dish pop by adding a dash of hot sauce just before removing it from the heat.

Here are some additional quotes (See Part One for more). These show the strong link between memories of childhood and memories of meals around the kitchen table.

p. 36  Cooking with Grandmom was one way to get close to the roots we pulled up when we moved to Virginia. (They moved to Big Stone Gap, VA, which became a movie. es)

p. 80 But the best thing about the stuffed peppers is telling you about them, and all these other delightful dishes, brings me back to my mom’s kitchen.
I remember fall days in Big Stone Gap, when we would run home to be on time for dinner, and there was enough of a nip in the air that the kitchen window was fogged up from whatever Mom was cooking. Over dinner we would tell stories and strengthen our ties to one another. And this was possible because Mom’s kitchen was warm, inviting, creative, and reminiscent of all the kitchens in the family that came before ours.

p. 110 At home in Big Stone Gap, Mom always served a vegetable and a salad because she liked to make sure we got plenty of greens……Mom taught us how to make and toss the salad with oil and vinegar. (Remember, more oil than vinegar.) We never saw a bottled dressing in Ida’s kitchen. And, we ate the salad right on the big dinner plate.

Cooking With My Sisters: One Hundred Years of Family Recipes, from Italy to Big Stone Gap (200 pages) is published by Harper Publishing, New York, etc. (Originally published by Random House in 2004. First Harper Paperback published in 2017.) ($19.99)

P.S. I love this cookbook, not only because the recipes I want to try are not complicated, but also because it demonstrates the link between cooking together and family ties. Thank you Adriana and Mary Yolanda Trigiani! es


Human Rights and Black History Month

Thursday, February 21st, 2019

February is Black History Month so I am posting an email I received from the Human Rights Campaign addressing this topic. It will bleed into the right-hand margin. This is an organization that Eleanor Roosevelt helped to organize and I think they do a good job of highlighting our rights as human beings, regardless of our religion,  the color of our skin or our gender choices.



Every February, we come together to honor Black LGBTQ and allied innovators, trailblazers and social justice warriors who have changed our world for the better. This Black History Month, let’s not only celebrate the achievements and progress that we have made, but also commit ourselves to breaking down the barriers to racial and LGBTQ equality that still remain.

Just in the last two weeks, we saw the brutal attacks on actor and advocate Jussie Smollett and Candice Elease Pinky — a Black transgender woman shot five times in Houston. Earlier in January, we lost Dana Martin in Alabama … the first known transgender person murdered in 2019.

Hate violence and the use of hate speech can never become acceptable.

Yet, unfortunately, these aren’t the only issues we need to wrestle with. The Black LGBTQ community also faces a disproportionate economic disadvantage in both housing and unemployment … the increased impact of HIV … and a lack of quality, affordable healthcare, to name just a few.

Fierce advocates are battling these challenges head-on and advancing justice in communities across the country and here in Washington. And, right now, with the support of some key advocates and champions for both racial and LGBTQ equality, we’re working to pass the Equality Act — which would ensure the explicit and consistent non-discrimination protections we need at the federal level!

We must also keep electing pro-equality leaders committed to change, especially those that understand the critical interconnection of the fight for equality across marginalized identities. We will continue to amplify the work of civil rights organizations and advocates fighting racial, social and economic injustices. We will combat hate violence, systemic racism and oppressionin every way we can.

And we will make sure every single voice in our community is heard, valued and protected — not just during Black History Month, but every month, and in the many battles we have ahead.

In solidarity,

Nicole Cozier
Senior Vice President
Diversity, Equity & Inclusion