Breaking Up is Hard to Do & The Vagina Monologues

Who knew that when Neil Sedaka penned the song “Breaking Up is Hard to Do,” that I would be “singing” it when I went through a dreadful divorce after 30 years of marriage. During this time I wrote many, many rhymes to ease the pain. Then I came across this quote from the  Phila. Inq. Cryptquote for Feb. 11th, which explains why.

Poetry spills from the cracks of a broken heart, but flows from one which is loved. — Christopher Pail Rubero

So today I offer one poem to those of you who won’t be celebrating Valentine’s Day with a sweetheart. With 13 years of being single after my divorce,  I learned to use Valentine’s Day to reach out to friends and family that I loved.

I also became involved in the play, The Vagina Monologues, which took place around Feb. 14th. It became V-Day, a day to end sexual abuse, spearheaded by writer and performer Eve Ensler. The second poem is about my time with Penn State women while practicing for the Monologues (I was the narrator.)

Calico Tears: Recipe for a Healing Heart

Tears of sadness
Tears of grief
Tears of gladness
Tears of relief

Put them all together in one small pile.
These calico tears will pepper my smile.
Stir them gently in one, large bowl—
A spiritual recipe for cleansing my soul.

I’ve tasted the passion; I’ve sampled the pain;
I’ve burned the anger and scrambled my brain.
Now I leave it to my Higher Power…
Please make this my finest hour.


The Monologues Are Just ….

The Beginning

By ellen sue 2/12/01


Monologue performing


Sexually blunt

Reclaiming Cunt


Home of the moan

Rap- free zone

Pussys Unite! &

Take Back the Night!




Yourself embrace

In boots & lace


Break the mold

Be fearful & bold

Kick and scream

To live your dream


Create each day

The monologue way.


*From Through V-Day campaigns, local volunteers and college students produce annual benefit performances of The Vagina Monologues; A Memory, A Monologue, A Rant and A Prayer; documentary film screenings (What I Want My Words To Do To You), Spotlight Teach-Ins and workshops, to raise awareness and funds for anti-violence groups within their own communities. Each year, thousands of V-Day benefit events take place produced by volunteer activists in the U.S. and around the world, educating millions of people about the reality of violence against women and girls.


P.S.  I promise to include some love poems to my husband of 10 years in the next poetry posting. My heart has been mended by a “mensch!”

2 Responses to “Breaking Up is Hard to Do & The Vagina Monologues”

  1. Mary-Lou Meyers Says:

    an interesting slant. I think women are entitled, however, whatever brings a sense of being
    responsible for their own Fate, not reliant on men for their energy or sense of fulfillment.

  2. ellen sue spicer Says:

    I agree! es

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