All Posts for June 2018

Summer Solstice

Wednesday, June 20th, 2018

Barbara Crooker’s poems are lovely and help me see the images she writes about so descriptively.  I have featured her poems before. (Just put her name in the Search box.) I asked her to send me some summer poems and I chose two to celebrate the Summer Solstice on Thursday. Both books are available on Amazon.com.

 

THIS SUMMER DAY

 That sprinkler is at it again,

hissing and spitting its arc

of silver, and the parched

lawn is tickled green. The air

hums with the busy traffic

of butterflies and bees,

who navigate without lane

markers, stop signs, directional

signals.  One of my friends

says we’re now in the shady

side of the garden, having moved

past pollination, fruition,

and all that bee-buzzed jazz,

into our autumn days. But I say wait.

It’s still summer, and the breeze is full

of sweetness spilled from a million petals;

it wraps around your arms,  lifts the hair

from the back of your neck.

The salvia, coreopsis, roses

have set the borders on fire,

and the peaches waiting to be picked

are heavy with juice. We are still ripening

into our bodies, still in the act of becoming.

Rejoice in the day’s long sugar.

Praise that big fat tomato of a sun.

             from Small Rain(Purple Flag Press, 2014)

 

 

 

 

HAPPINESS

She loves West Tenth Street on an

ordinary summer morning. (Michael

Cunningham, The Hours)

 

And I love this ordinary summer afternoon,

sitting under my cherry tree full of overripe fruit,

too much for us to pick, an abbondanza* of a tree,

I love this dark grey catbird singing its awkward song,

and the charcoal clouds promising rain they don’t deliver.

I love the poem I’ve been trying to write for months,

but can’t; I love the way it’s going nowhere at all.

I love the dried grass that crackles when you walk on it,

leached of color, its own kind of fire.

Way off in the hedgerow, the musical olio of dozens of birds,

each singing its own song, each beating its own measure.

This is all there is: the red cherries, the green leaves,

sky like a pale silk dress, and the rise and fall

of the sweet breeze. Sometimes, just what you have

manages to be enough.

            from Radiance (Word Press, 2005)

 

Thanx, Barbara!

P.S. *abbodanza means abundance

My Favorite Father: A Tribute to My Brother Paul

Friday, June 15th, 2018

NOTE: My four siblings and I always called our father “Daddy.” Thus, this essay focuses on a father, my brother Paul. My father will always just be “Daddy” to me.

 

Knopf Family Photo (Left to right): My older brother Paul, me, my younger brother Harry, my younger sister Rosie, and my older sister Phyllis. Time: mid-to-late 1940s.

Growing up, we didn’t see much of our dad. As the owner of a gas station and repair shop, he worked from very early in the morning until well after dinnertime. He was what we now call a workaholic, laboring seven days each week, 52 weeks of the year, to support our mom and their five growing children, so we did not see much of him. Thus, I did not witness much in the way of “fathering,” other than my mom saying, “Wait ’til your Daddy comes home,” when we misbehaved. We knew he was there as a loving, stable presence in all our lives, but nevertheless, his work ethic left him very little time for hands-on parenting. That was more our mom’s role.

Not so my brother Paul, my older sibling by 20 months. We grew up together, dating each other’s friends. Fortunately for me, he married one of my girlfriends from a different high school. We lived in a separate school district from many of our friends and I met Carol at the local Jewish Y, where we both joined a girls’ club.

Full Family Photo from Paul’s Bar Mitzvah (1949) – Left to right (back row): Paul, our dad David, Phyllis, our mother Bea.  (L. to R. Fr0nt row): me, my sister Rosie and my brother Harry.
(I hated our taffeta dresses!)

 

Even though my first husband and I lived too far away from Paul and Carol to see them often, every time we did visit, I was subconsciously aware of how well-behaved and quiet spoken his three children were. Growing up, my siblings and I were a noisy bunch and there was also lots of yelling from my mom. Not so at Paul’s and Carol’s home. Maybe this is because Carol herself is soft-spoken, or because Paul seemed to have the patience of Job. Either way, it was a peaceful place to visit.

Whatever the reason, I admired how he and Carol were raising their kids. At his funeral last year, his daughter Rachel remarked how her father never raised his voice to his three children. Unfortunately, my kids cannot say the same about my parenting techniques!

And, unlike my dad, he was always home for dinner. Carol insisted on that. As a professor and later awarded a chair at Brown University in Providence, RI, he had his own lab where he did experiments with his graduate students studying for their PhDs.  Sometimes after dinner he would go back to his lab at Brown to check on his experiments, but family dinners came first. He loved his students and they loved him back. He was often voted the most popular “prof “of the year by his students. Paul made science enjoyable and understandable, spending several hours of preparation before each lecture, much like a minister does before a sermon. I went to one of his lectures six weeks into the semester and understood everything he taught. I was amazed at and impressed with his teaching skills.

His three children are all grown now, two with children of their own. Their love for their Dad was evident at his funeral, and my love for him grows each time I think about him. He was kind, considerate, patient and non-judgmental, all good traits for anyone, and especially for a father and grandfather.

Paul with his three grandsons

Paul earned his undergraduate degree and PhD. from M.I.T.; worked with Dr. Francis Crick, co-Nobel prizewinner for discovering DNA; and spent five years at the Salk Institute in California before becoming a professor at Brown. In addition, he had a keen sense of humor, loved puzzles (which was part of his passion for science, that is, putting together pieces of the puzzles of diseases, such as schistosomiasis,* his main research project); was an active advisor for The Progeria Research Foundation; enjoyed his family, especially his grandchildren; and was a stand-up guy, or as we say in Yiddish, a real “mensch.” (Note: My younger brother is also a great father, but he has lived too far away for me to witness his fathering traits up close.)

So for Father’s Day, my vote goes to my brother Paul, gone from the planet, but not from our minds and hearts. I miss him every day, but fortunately, he has passed on his knowledge, his patience, and his loving kindness for others onto his children and three male grandchildren, all of whom adored him. What more can one ask of any man or woman in this crazy world?

*https://www.cdc.gov/parasites/schistosomiasis/index.html

Apr 30, 2018 – Schistosomiasis, also known as bilharzia, is a disease caused by parasitic worms. Although the worms that cause schistosomiasis are not found in the United States, more than 200 million people are infected worldwide.

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