All Posts for June 2009

Euna Lee & Laura Ling – U.S. Journalists

Sunday, June 14th, 2009

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As a member of Amnesty International’s Urgent Action Network, I received this email and wanted to share it with readers who would like to take action. The address to use to TAKE ACTION is: http://www.alerts@takeaction.amnestyusa.org>. You will need to type in the women’s names in the upper right hand corner (SEARCH) to get to this particular issue, but there are also other urgent actions on this site that might be of interest.

Below is the complete letter I received:

North Korea’s government sentenced two U.S. journalists on Monday to more than a decade of hard labor in one of the world’s most closed and oppressive prison systems.

Given all we know about the appalling prison conditions in North Korea, we need your help to ensure that the two journalists aren’t forced to serve their sentences. Decades of monitoring and research by Amnesty have revealed that North Korean prisoners are worked beyond exhaustion, often into illness and death.

Guards beat prisoners suspected of lying, not working fast enough or for forgetting the words to patriotic songs. Forms of punishment included forced exercise, sitting without moving for prolonged periods of time and public humiliation.

The global community must send a clear message to Pyongyang that it won’t tolerate the callous decision to turn two innocent U.S. journalists into pawns in a geopolitical chess match.

North Korean authorities have held Laura Ling and Euna Lee in solitary confinement for nearly three months. The two have had limited contact with consular authorities and their families – including Lee’s 4-year-old daughter.

The Obama administration has undertaken a full-court press in recent days, using every instrument in its diplomatic toolkit to persuade the North Korean government to release the journalists.

But other strategically important members of the global community need to step up if they are to be freed.

China is our best hope of seeing Laura and Euna returned to safety. Beijing exerts unmatched influence over the North Korean regime as its staunchest ally, largest trading partner and most important supplier of food and energy. China has succeeded in bringing Pyongyang to the negotiating table, even when all other efforts have failed.

China’s joining in the global chorus condemning North Korea’s cruel actions could be the crucial step needed to free these journalists.

Lend your voice today to our call on China to intervene on behalf of Laura and Euna.

We’ve pulled out all the stops over the past two days to find an email address to send your appeals to, but China clearly doesn’t want to hear what we have to say, and has shut off all publicly known addresses. But they don’t understand that you and I, as members of Amnesty’s global movement, don’t give up so easily.

Sincerely,

Jack Rendler
Country Specialist for North Korea
Amnesty International USA

Introduction to Divorce-Dayz Manual

Tuesday, June 9th, 2009

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            “Thank God for divorce,” my daughter Eileen once stated in a passionate voice, “or I would be stuck in a bad marriage for life.”  That statement threw me at first until I thought about it more and spoke with other divorced people.

            “I have never been happier being alone,” said a professor I worked for, after he separated from his wife of 43 years.

            “Our marriage was a mistake,” confessed one of my close friends.

            At the age of 80, my friend Cindy’s grandmother kicked her husband out of the house.  He wasn’t pulling his weight.

            My own marriage of 30 years ended in divorce. The other important comment my daughter Eileen made was that I stayed too long in my marriage. Probably true.  And even though we both agreed to the divorce, the experience was traumatic. (Of course, I was also going through menopause and school at the same time, which added to the stress.)

            While divorce may be a relief, that doesn’t mean it is easy.  In addition, the longer you are married, the more difficult the separation because of the years of history and shared experiences—good and bad—between you and your husband.  Even when the marriage has been going sour for a long time, the process of divorce takes time while it is taking its toll.  I asked divorced friends, of which I have many, when they knew their marriage was over, and I was astonished with some of the answers.

            My friend Mindy  said she knew the night before the wedding at the rehearsal.  My friend Sonny said he knew when he said, “I do,” and should have said, “I don’t.”  Another friend, Pam said her marriage had been over for years and she was staying until the children graduated high school. (I suspect many women do this, either from a sense of loyalty or guilt. That is why divorce often happens when women are older, because they want a two-parent family for their growing children.)  I had an inkling when I was engaged, but ignored the feelings in my gut and thought I just had the jitters.

            Extricating yourself from a long-time marriage is not always easy, but then, who said life was either easy…or fair?  Like the song, “I Never Promised You a Rose Garden,” I realized that I was holding onto a rose garden fantasy.  Actually, I think I was taking stupid pills instead of vitamin pills!  I began to see through my pain and tears that there was a way out into a reality that I could create with a lot of help from my friends. If perception is reality, then I had to change my perception of what life could be, without a husband, and create a new reality.

            Now when I think of my daughter’s statement, “Thank God for divorce!” it doesn’t sound so strange after all!

 

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Below is a tentative Table of Contents, subject to change without notice, like ads for sale items often state. This Table of Contents seems to work for now, but as I learn more from you, the reader, it may change. I have labeled them Lessons for lack of a better term, but please accept them as guidelines that may help you as you wind your way through the haze, maze, and daze of divorce.

 Lesson #1: Crazy Dayz

 Lesson #2: Dayz of Our Lives

 Lesson #3: Courtin’ Dayz

 Lesson #4: Dayz-Free Rules

 Lesson #5: Dayz of the Ex-Files

 Lessons #6: Waves through the Dayz

 Lesson #7: Dayz of Forgiveness

 Lesson #8: Dayz In, Dayz Out

 Lesson #9: Amazing Dayz: Resources

 Appendix: Other Divorce Stories, More poems, & Quotes

 (I plan to post parts of each chapter every week, keeping the postings short, since there are also other categories to sandwich in between.)

 

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